I wear gloves.
Out in the weather that calls for it, but also when I wash dishes. Always, when I wash dishes.
I’m sure this wasn’t always the case, though.
My mother’s hands, which look just like mine, seem however to lack the nerve endings that denote pain. In my childhood home, I never recall actually seeing a pair of latex gloves. Even scrubbing toilet bowls at the motel, I don’t remember protective gloves being an option.
But the first home with my name on the mortgage was old and its original plumbing was installed long before the notion of anti-scald. Not having inherited my mom’s ability to withstand oven-hot heat with bare hands, I opted for gloves. With toxic-burn temps, I would have risked serious injury if I even rinsed a glass or bowl without the gloves. I understand that a more rational person might have taken the time to find that sweet middle spot on the faucet that denoted warm -not me.
So I donned gloves. Really good, rubber gloves.
And the idea stuck.
Now still, to rinse a single glass or cup, I put on my yellow gloves and wash away. Those observing the procedure often note that it takes me more time to retrieve the gloves from under the sink and put them on than it does to wash the item. True.
Still, the gloves endure.
I have a set for New Hampshire. I use the hidden trove in Maine.
Where am I going with this?
Well, first off, you’ve got to understand (by now) I never really know for sure.
And second –I just washed something without the damn gloves.
And discovered something.
Without the gloves, not only did I feel the not-unpleasant warmth of the water (this newer plumbing doesn’t answer with third-degree burns) but I also felt what I missed on the utensil –the bit of cheesy dough left behind.
If you’re still following –all this was a set up.
With or without rubber gloves, I’ve always known exactly what to do to protect myself.
Thus, I get it when I watch a few of my students do the same.
Not so much with me –they seem to come gloveless to our sessions. But in their lives, with their friends, in a classroom, some of them don their own protective shields.
I can relate.
I don’t always understand the connections I have with these young adults. Kelley instructs that it isn’t necessary that I do. Informs me that I may never understand why or how I fit into their lives.
On the other hand, I acknowledge that a connection does exist and try occasionally to light a path if where they’re headed seems familiar.
I’d say this then to those wearing gloves.
Sometimes, you have to risk the feel of that searing heat, getting scalded, knowing first hand pain –to get to the details of your life you could be missing.
And the pleasant warmth that you can only feel when hand touches hand -and risks it all.
I wear gloves.